Dating is going well
Until we are ready to let go and enjoy, it might affect us in many ways.” So, how do you keep your relationship moving in the right direction instead of tearing it apart? First things first, communication is a crucial aspect of any relationship, whether you’ve just started dating somebody or you’ve been together for years.
“Communication is key when the relationship is going well and we do not want to blow it up.
Always try to understand where your partner is coming from, and hopefully they’ll do the same for you.
In my case, it was my crippling fear of abandonment. They may fear being hurt, the other person leaving them, or the possibility of a serious or committed future with their partner,” Talkspace therapist Christine Tolman, LCPC, states. Long term, happy relationships might not have as many emotional highs and lows as the beginning of a relationship, and some people may seek out excitement in the form of sabotage.” Additionally, the environment you grew up in can play a part in whether you’re more likely to blow up your relationship.
Talkspace therapist Cynthia Catchings, LCSW-C, explains, “Growing up in a dysfunctional family can create resentment and fear, and it also prevents us from seeing a healthy relationship on a daily basis.
The lack of example is what some people mention as being a major issue.” On top of lack of example from your family, negative experiences in past romantic relationships can stir up fear.
Catchings adds, “The emotional baggage that some of us carry can prevent us from enjoying a good relationship.