Dating during and after divorce
Judges and court experts are prejudiced against those who date during a divorce, especially when minor children are involved.
Date only on non-custodial weekends and don’t let them know about your new love interest.
Instead, "it's usually clear when you're not ready," says Susan Pease Gadoua, a therapist and author of . But once the idea of going on a date comes into your mind and you don't want to chase it out again, you're at least ready to start, she says. The idea is that you should consciously decide how you want to proceed," which will in turn inform how you go about meeting people.
Don’t begin dating until after you and your spouse are separated or your spouse could use the information to accuse your dating partner of causing the divorce, according to Lina Guillen, an attorney writing the Divorcenet article.That said, don't let a fear of your children being upset or disapproving stop you from getting out there if you feel ready to."Too many women hide behind their kids as an excuse not to date," says Gadoua.Be up-front and respectful, but don't apologize for wanting to date."Most children just want their parent to be happy, and may be less likely to object than you imagine," she says.