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If you’re in constant conflict with an older child over everything from curfews (should they have one or shouldn’t they?), to getting a job, to alcohol use, James Lehman offers advice on how to set reasonable limits and how to coach your child to responsibility and independence.Kids between the ages of 17 and 25 still have a lot of thinking errors.Just like you can have a spelling error, and misspell a word, you can have a thinking error in which you misread life’s problems and come out with the wrong solutions.Parents feel they have to take care of their kids, whether they are 9 or 19 years old.When they’re five, they’re climbing the monkey bars and you’re worried they’re going to break their arm.Their brain is still developing in their early 20’s.

Free Downloadable Mutual Living Agreement to Use with Adult Children I have known many parents who couldn’t get their adult children out of bed.If you feel compromised and taken advantage of by an older child, you need to realize this: the child is an adult now. I met many kids in my practice who refused to go to school and could only read and write at a seventh- or eighth-grade level at best. Consider the kid who says: “I’m not making it in school, but I’m gonna be a rap singer.They told me they were going to be video game programmers, basketball players, or rap singers. I wrote a few songs tonight.” That’s the way he deals with his anxiety about the future. When you have these different currents coming together in a home where parents are living with an older child, it can get very uncomfortable for everyone, if not hostile.They begin to think they’re too strict just for trying to implement the rules they’ve always had since their kids were young. I would keep those rules very clear because you don’t want to start having double standards with older kids, especially if you have other younger kids in the home. Everyone in the home should know what the rules are, and it’s important to lay it all out before the child turns 18.Kids are experts at manipulating their parents with guilt. The second level of rules is the one that enables parents to live with young adults. What’s going to happen if you do what you’re not supposed to do? For example, the rule on drinking: It can be you’re out of the house for a few days, a few weeks or forever.

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