Dating and oral sex
"Sometimes a crisis shows you what is really important," says Schwartz.
"Infidelity is sometimes caused by each person, or by one person in particular withholding love, affection and sex.
We all know that infidelity is a potent relationship-destroyer, an atom bomb that few unions withstand. In pointing fingers, about 12 percent of both sexes say that their partner cheated on them-which hints that many ladies are too optimistic about their man's whereabouts at this very second.
Surprisingly few people say the cheating did irreparable harm to their relationship: Roughly 40 percent report that it had no effect at all, about 30 percent think it only caused temporary tension, and a mere 6 percent or less say it was the fatal blow.
What's more, some report that infidelity made their relationship better.
About 25 percent of cheaters say that it gave their relationship a boost in the sex department, and 11 percent of cheatees agree.
Using a random sample of 1,670 Americans ages 45 and older, it revealed exactly what older Americans do behind closed doors (and plenty of other places), as well as their honest opinions about things you'd typically get punched, slapped, or arrested for asking. Baby, It's Cold Inside Wondering if you're the only person in the country whose sex life has taken a dive even though you're healthy, hardy, and still highly interested in your partner? It seems that there's been an alarming drop in our nookie sessions.
"It's hard for some people to feel warm and sexy when they are afraid of losing their home-or they have already lost their job!
Among women with cheating partners, however, only 24 percent say it had no effect on the relationship-and almost 40 percent say it made their sex lives worse.
(Perhaps some of these lucky "no effect" folks had struck a pragmatic arrangement; one survey respondent added, "We lived 300 miles apart at the time and agreed to a 'don't ask don't tell' policy." Gender matters, too.
Women were almost three times as likely as men to say that their partner's cheating caused a lasting tension and lack of trust.
Men are either more forgiving or just harder up: Only 6 percent of male cheatees say their sex lives were worse after their partner's infidelity. Ironically, a wandering partner may be doing you a big favor.