Dating a divorced man with 3 kids
The kids are already devastated that their parents are splitting up, it’s killing them to choose one parent and they’re still harboring hope in some corner of their hearts that their parents may still get back together.
When a brand new person walks into this, it dashes even that tiny ray of hope and you can imagine how they feel towards said person.
At this point, the couple has probably even been living separately, and legalities aside, they are no longer husband and wife, for all intents and purposes.
For a couple like this, dating while going through a divorce isn’t equivalent to an affair or a spur of the moment thing; it’s because for all practical purposes, they’re single and ready to mingle!
Regardless of who is going to get custody of the kids, they’ll still love them more than ever and will want to meet them and generally be a part of their lives.
So don’t be surprised if they’d rather go to their little girl’s recital than to a wine tasting with you.
This can clash with the dates and outings you plan, so it’s best to just let things be easy and casual for a while. The ex will show up (and not just in conversation) Ah yes, there’s no escaping the ex now!
With an individual who has no kids, you can avoid seeing the ex for the most part, but you haven’t heard the last of them yet!
Conversation about the ex is a tricky situation – some people may rant on and on about their exes, while some don’t even mention them, other than ‘you-know-who’ or something like that.
Kids change the equation completely and require much more effort, so if you’re not up to it, let it go from the very beginning! For starters, let’s look at what you need to know when dating a childless individual going through a divorce. The last thing they need is you nagging them; they already had more than enough with their (almost) ex-spouse! Expect a (temporary) pall of gloom Going through a divorce isn’t a walk in the park; and if the ex is like those vengeful psychos you see onscreen, then it’s certainly a walk through hell!
It’s easier than with kids, but you may have some other things to deal with. You may have to deal with some irrationality An individual in the process of getting a divorce is sort of in no man’s land and they may feel at sea when it comes to understanding their current status. So while your date is officially separated and ready to see new people, they may not be cheerful and optimistic all the while, so you’ll have to accept the temporary gloom till things are resolved.